Do not be fooled by the pictures and the snapchats…although I had an amazing time in New York, I was not in NYC living the fashion week dream, more than anything I was learning about myself. When word of a $96 round trip ticket to New York popped up on my timeline I had no choice but to purchase it and when the week of the flight happened to be during fashion week I thought to myself this has to be God.
So from there I made the decision to go to New York by myself. I didn’t have a ton of connections nor did I know a bunch of people in New York but I knew I wanted to go and I had a feeling I needed to be there since so many things for the trip lined up perfectly.
I was not invited to the fancy parties, events, and shows but I did somehow work my way into a couple of events and shows. I really learned exactly how to go about this trip next September (or next February if I’m ready to endure the winter time weather in New York). So unfortunately this isn’t some glamorous NYFW post, this is a “what traveling by myself taught me” type of post.
The only thing standing in your way is yourself. Whatever it is that you want don’t depend on other people to get it done for you. Do it yourself. Send those emails. Make those connections. Get where it is you want to go. Every show I did get into was from me sending emails, letting them know about myself and then I received an invitation.
Be mindful that everyone was “up and coming” at some point. Don’t sleep on them. Some of the greatest connection and networking I did was with people who were up and coming and grinding in the big apple. The stories I heard from Skylar, Danny, Court, Diamond…etc. those were the stories and people that inspired me and motivated me to push harder. Of course you want to be rubbing elbows with the Anna Wintours and Kanyes of the world but you never know who’s up next.
Remember to PP… and by PP I mean be persistent and do not procrastinate. These are easy givens but they are also hard to keep up with at times. If you have a goal to go somewhere or do something do not procrastinate on making it happen and be persistent about doing everything necessary to get it done.
Make it happen for yourself but also make sure you take advantage of all the resources that are available to you. Sometimes that may just mean tapping in to your inner Nev skills, finding the right person’s email address and making some necessary connections.
Don’t be afraid to be alone. The road to the top is often times lonely. Your path is your path so you have to be okay with being alone at times. You learn so much when you spend some quality time with yourself.
I say all of this to say. Life is not easy but you knew that. Do not be fooled by what people chose to show you. Be willing to work…and work hard for what it is you want in life. It will all be worth it in the end.
P.S. Next year I promise it’ll be more glamorous. 😉